Arrange marriage or Love marriage? Does it matter

This topics is discussed regularly. Here are few thoughts to consider

If a person is in love - person should go thru love marriage and family should support it.

If a person is not in love and have desire to get married - person should be open to method of meeting others thru - internet, Facebook, matrimonial site or thru Parents (arranged marriage)

Is it OK to have arrange marriage

Some plants grow themselves.  For some we use seed and give them good envviroment to ensure plant grow and have strong roots. Similarly it is okay to have introduce thru friends, relative, parents.  Nowadays it is commercialized and you can use various matrimonial sites.

Thru Facebook, internet chat site too you can get to know

Is it OK to go to Honeymoon with someone you hardly know

Good point.  It is bit adventurous to go to Honeymoon with someone you barely know. 

Compare this with one night stand, casual relationship.  Which one is more risky?

In first case there is social and legal contract. it is less risky.  It has freshness of new relationship.  It can be good thing if you like the person in first few meeting.

Newness of new relation, initial charm and bit of spontaneity, adventure can make honeymoon great too.

Of course if you have concern and did not like the person in first few meeting - honeymoon may not be good.

Why you should not say arrange marriage is better than love marriage

Every person has freedom to choose their life partner.  So if someone wants to do love marriage,  society should not enforce arrage marriage.

Why many people are against arranged marriage

If someone is against arranged marriage - first discuss definition of arranged marriage.

  • Arranged marriage means - someone else arranged it or selected spouse for a person. 
  • In practise - parents or relative introduce person to prospective spouse.

If you discuss the above two factor , it will be easy to have discussion.

 

Most of people will agree if someone is only introducing you and you have right to choose partner - it is not a bad option.

Some more points to consider

Networking

If you need to find a job will you network. Sites like Linkedin are based on it -

  1. will you network and find a job thru friends
  2. or directly apply to open position.

It is okay to use one or both method depending on your circumstances.  Same is true while finding a partner.

If you need to network theu family, relative - be open to do so.

Crowdsourcing

If you are in love great.  But if you need to get view point of  prospective partner from friends, relatives - it is OK if you like it.  You should not feel bad about it.

Crowdsourcing is the process of obtaining needed services, ideas, or content by soliciting contributions from a large group of people.  n every part of your life crowdsourcing is used.  If you are reading this article from internet - it uses crowdsourcing to determine that this article is viewed by other people

Last but not least important

Never say that arrange marriage is better or should be chosen over love marriage

If you had arrange marriage and happy marriage-great.  Even then it is not advisable to say "arrange marriage is better than love marriage"

If a person is in love - person should go through love marriage and family should support it.

If a person is not in love and have desire to get married - person should be open to method of meeting others thru - internet, Facebook, matrimonial site or thru Parents (arranged marriage)